During my first few years of being self employed and working from my one bedroom apartment, I remember thinking for sometimes several hours at a time, about the real meaning of success.

I’ll never forget staying in on Friday nights when all of my friends were out partying – I’d sit quietly on my sofa reading a book by the fireplace, in search of some age old wisdom that would give me a better understanding of myself and my place on this earth.

I read Napoleon Hill’s Think And Grow Rich a dozen times, each time learning something new that I seemed to miss the time before, in an attempt to figure out the missing pieces of my success puzzle.

Then I moved on to other books like Way of the Peaceful Warrior & Sacred Journey of the Peaceful Warrior both by Dan Millman, Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield, See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar & Dig Your Well before You’re Thirsty by Harvey McKay.

Each of these thought provoking books gave me incredible insight into myself, who I am and what my mission in life truly is.

Since this time in my life, I’ve often wondered, even to this day,

“What is success?”

“What does it really mean?”

“Does it mean more money?”

“Does it mean fame?”
Family in DR at Vento
“Does it mean a nice house, nice cars and a lot of investments?”

I guess it could mean anything you want it to mean.

What I’ve discovered is that success is relative – it’s different for everyone.

Ask people in different parts of the world what success means to them and you will find many, many diverse answers. Some say riches, some say poverty, some say oneness with their God, some say family.

So how does one really define success?

Well, for me, Personal Success is not so much a “thing”, but a feeling.

It’s the feeling of knowing that I have given all of myself to those around me.

It’s the feeling of knowing that I have given all of myself to whatever cause I stand for.

It’s the feeling of knowing that I’ve done all that I can do in order to create the best circumstances for myself and those in my life.

It’s the feeling of knowing that I’ve done everything I could possibly do to make others feel important and significant and to feel my passion for them.

You see, for me personally, success is more about relationships than money.

In my house, we have a very popular saying that goes like this:

Forget about me; I love you!

If you take the first letter of these words, it spells “FAMILY”.

And this is what I feel is at the core of Personal Success – a strong, loving family.

So for me, Personal Success starts right in the home.

It starts with the relationships we have with those closest to us, the people we spend most of our time with and those we care about most.

I’ve always said about being a parent, that the greatest gift we can give our children, is to love each other.

And the second greatest gift we can give our children, is time, because to a child, time = love.

This is a very important component of my own Personal Success.

Because there is nothing more important to me than family.

And when I was 24 years old and told my father that I didn’t care about money, this is what I was attempting to tell him, but didn’t quite know how to express it.

What I didn’t understand at the time was that I should have just told him what I did care about, not what I “didn’t” care about.

And so the fact that I spoke into existence what I “didn’t” care about (money is this case), is exactly why I didn’t attract much money into my life at this early age.

When I began changing how I spoke to myself and others, in the form of what I did want and deserve to have in my life, everything began to change.

Today, I focus on only those things I want into my life and take whatever actions are necessary to ensure that I receive them.

You too can do the exact same as I do, if you are willing to change your thoughts and take new actions.

Success my friend, can be a lot closer to you than you think.