I remember clear as day.

December of 1995 – I had just begun my new life, living at the beach in San Diego, California after 6 years of college in Towson, Maryland.

I was renting a small bedroom for $400 per month, sharing the house with 4 other people and had just quit my job as a Personal Trainer at an athletic club called Frogs. (owned by a few US Navy Seals)

I had very little cash, slept on a futon and lived very simply, day by day – I’m pretty sure I was getting by on Credit Cards for a while.

I knew only a few people who lived in San Diego and my nearest relatives were about 3500 miles away.  I was 25 years old.

Late in the month, right around Christmas, my parents came out to visit me and spend some time with friends who were also in town.

One night after dinner, in the middle of explaining my plans to my father about what I was going to do with my life, I told him, “I really don’t care about money”.

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My father said, ”Son, you don’t have a job”.

I said “Dad, it’s ok. I have a dream.”

(No bs – this is exactly how it went down)

I had very little money, no job and no income coming in.

My credit cards were all close to maxed and I was behind on all payments.

It wasn’t a pretty situation.

But I didn’t care.

I looked past all that.

To be in control of my own life, I was willing to take a few steps back, to make a big leap forward.

I had no idea how I was going to make money, but I just knew that whatever I did, I would learn to do it well.

Now, I certainly didn’t understand much about money back then, (which is why I didn’t have any), but what I did understand was that money was not really what I was after. 

In retrospect, I’ve since learned that I don’t know what I don’t know, so had you asked me back then why I wanted to be successful, I wouldn’t have been able to answer you, because I was very unclear myself.

I had an idea of what I wanted, but couldn’t put it into words.

It was more like a picture in my mind.

I was broke, living paycheck to paycheck and could hardly cover my bills.

I was tired and felt both physical and emotional fatigue.

While in this phase of my life, I also lost both my Grandfathers unexpectedly within just a couple months of each other, so I had to fly back and forth, coast to coast on a couple last minute flights in my first two months of being in San Diego.  This was very difficult for my family and me.

A few months after that, I slipped into an unsurmountable amount of debt while being unemployed and had bills piling up that I had no idea how I was going to pay.

I got to the point that I didn’t know how much I owed and started smoking & drinking to forget about my financial stress.

I became depressed and irresponsible and started feeling really bad about myself.

I was in a bad relationship, got very out of shape and was partying way too much.

After a while, I didn’t like who I was.

I wanted to be someone different – I just didn’t know how to, yet.

Day in and day out, I longed for a different life.

One day, an client of mine introduced me to her and her husband’s Network Marketing Business and before I knew it, I became a new Entrepreneur.

It was a perfect match for me and what I had always wanted.

My own business, the ability to help a lot of other people – a chance to get rich and life a great lifestyle!

I took to Network Marketing like a fish to water.

I had some natural people skills and was able to make money right away selling my products.

But after a while, I realized that those skills were only going to get me so far.

I was good at closing sales, but nobody wanted to work with me or do what I was doing.

I was very new at this Leadership thing so until others saw me as a a part of their solution, I was just going to have to continue to work on leading myself.

Luckily, being an Entrepreneur, I had some incredible resources at my fingertips.

These resources were actually “people” and they were tremendous role models at that time in my life, willing to let me watch them and observe. Mostly, what I observed, was how they led people.

One day, they said they saw something in me that they recognized in others who were successful.

I didn’t see that about myself yet, but they instilled confidence in me that I could actually become great one day.

Not just as a business person, but a family man, a husband, a father, a son, a brother and a friend.

I wanted to be great at all these things and this is why I fell in love with Network Marketing. 

I saw that moment in time, my calling.

I was determined to become a Leader. 

For myself, my family and my new business partners.

I knew that for things to change, I was going to have to change, so I stopped smoking and drinking and started working out regularly again.

I became highly disciplined in my workout routine and even committed to a Physique Transformation Competition.

And so, I began another new journey – a quest if you will, to find my “self”.

I knew I could do it, because I saw others had already come before me.

My search was on, for high levels of self esteem, a good self image and self love.

I knew once I developed these 3 areas of myself, the rest would soon come.

So, I began reading books.

I began listening to tapes & cds.

I sought out more successful people and listened to them speak.

I observed their every move.

I began asking questions.

And I listened to their answers.

Each and every day, by replacing my old beliefs with new ones and taking new actions that were in alignment with my commitments, I began to see progress.

Not just emotionally, but spiritually as well.

I began changing from a damaged human being, into a whole one again.

I started attracting better people into my life, I looked several years younger and felt better than I had in my life.

I really started feeling good.

Soon enough, answers to my questions began coming from within and I no longer relied on outside sources to guide me.

I chose to take full responsibility for myself, and quit blaming anyone and everyone else for who what I did or didn’t have.

I took back all the power that I had once given away.

I was on my way to success.

Since that time in my life, I’ve lived by several philosophies, each of which I still live by today.

Here they are, in no particular order:

#1 – We are exactly where were supposed to be.

Every situation, circumstance and condition is a learning experience. Nothing ever happens “to” me – they happen “for” me, good or bad. This in turn, makes the bad, good, as each experience offers and opportunity to grow and come back stronger. I’ve learned that you can learn from success, but failure is the best teacher!

#2 – It’s not what we do that makes the difference, but what we do daily.

One of the areas that I had to develop when making the biggest mental u-turn in my life, was discipline. To me, this was doing the exact opposite of what would have been easier to do. Over time, that thing that I considered not so “easy”, became easy. Whether it was exercising daily, prospecting for my business, doing my marketing, learning new skills or practicing random acts of kindness for those around me, I made sure that they didn’t just become what I did, but who I was. I made a habit out of showing up every day and still do.

#3 – If we don’t go within, we will always go without.

In Dan Millman’s book, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, he stated, “the longest journey is the journey inward”. When I read that book for the first time, that sentence awakened an understanding in me that for the past 15 years has been like the north star in my search for greatness. Whenever I am challenged, I go within my deepest mind to discover the answers to whatever obstacle is standing before me.

#4 – Our inner world creates our outer world.

Take a look around you. Everything you see is the manifestation of some thought you once had. Maybe not yesterday or the day before, but over many years. In other words, your home, your car, your family, your friends, your job, your business, your income, your health, your wealth, your relationships…you name it. It’s true, what we think about, we bring about.

Back when I was first getting started, my understanding of these philosophies was not the same as it is today.

At first, they were just cool sounding words with no real practical meaning.

Today, I fully understand how each of these philosophies has guided me along my way.

Just remember, success is relative.

It’s different for everyone.

For me, it was just simply achieving a high level of self love, inner peace and personal power.

And today, because I take ownership of these qualities, I can give them freely to others in every way, fully self expressed, and without concern that there just isn’t enough to go around.

Personal Growth & Development – the doorway to your own success!