I am a sucker for good quotes, as they oftentimes paint a new picture of an old philosophy – very simple and logical.

25421_1422387879625_1230562136_31269998_5818727_nMy friend, mentor and VP of Leadership Development of the #1 Online Marketing Community in the World, John Jackson once said, “It’s not the responsibility of a sponsor to struggle for their new student, client or member – it’s only their responsibility to assure them that their struggle is worthwhile.”

This my friend, is very true, however, by knowing some of the common pitfalls you are bound to experience on your way to success, perhaps you will recognize them when they creep up on you in the midst of your quest for greatness.

First, let me share a story by Portia Nelson that illustrates what you might expect during the process:

- BEGIN

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE CHAPTERS

1) I walk down the street.
  There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.  
I fall in. 
I am lost…
I am hopeless. 
It isn’t my fault.  
It takes forever to find a way out.

2) I walk down the same street.  
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
  I pretend I don’t see it.  
I fall in again.  
I can’t believe I’m in the same place.
  But it isn’t my fault.
  It still takes a long time to get out.

3) I walk down the same street.  
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.  
I see it is there.  
I still fall in…it’s a habit
.  My eyes are open; I know where I am; 
It is my fault.  
I get out immediately.

4) I walk down the same street.
  There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
  I walk around it.

5) I walk down another street.

- END

This phenom, my friend, is not only critical to experience for yourself, but also inevitable.

We must all learn that part of being successful, is about accepting “unsuccessful”, at first.

New York Times Best Selling Author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker says that “every master, was once a disaster”!

So what should you look for and embrace when it comes your way?

Here are some basic common pitfalls to embrace on your quest for greatness:

#1 – Confusion – This is also known as, “not sure what to do next in order to move forward”.  This happens to the best of us. The best way I’ve found to get out is to figure it out.  This way, if I ever get into the same place again, I know what to do, but more importantly, what not to do.  By exhausting your resources without being dependent on your sponsor to answer every question for you, you will become self reliant and confident that you can be powerful when you fall into this pitfall in the future.

#2 – Frustration – This is also known as, “elevated confusion leading to anxiety”. Oftentimes frustration precedes blaming others, so don’t dig yourself even deeper. The best way to manage frustration is to walk away or take some time off so that you can slip back into confusion and then, figure it out when you’re in a better place.

#3 – Temptation – This is also known as, “thinking about…quitting, jumping ship, stopping short, abandoning or giving up”. Just know that we all are tempted to do one or all of these things at some or several points along the way.  Many times, temptation is a result of our own Confusion or Frustration.  We may even tend to blame other factors outside ourselves for our own feelings or emotions. Just know that while you may be tempted to take one of the above actions that as long as you are in business, you will drop into this pitfall from time to time.

A Word About Problems

When it comes to being in business, there are only two types of problems.

#1 – Logistics – This is typically technology or system related challenges.  Every company and entrepreneur encounters these. The best way to avoid them is not to be in business.

#2 – Human Error –  Definitely the most important to observe, but the most often overlooked. Every company, organization and business in existence must learn to weather the storm of human error. It can come from inside or outside. Typically, it’s about making wrong decisions, mis-treating people, a lack of integrity or mis-directed values.

When a business owner learns to overcome the adversity stemming from logistics, this is a huge step in the right direction.

When a business owner learns to overcome adversity stemming from human error, this can be dangerous territory. If you or someone you work with constantly makes poor decisions, mis-treats people, lacks integrity or displays mis-directed values, it’s not always about overcoming this adversity that will make you successful. It’s about making your own decisions in regards to whether this is the type of person you want and deserve in your business life and whether keeping them in your life, is serving or dis-serving to you.

Both types of problems are omni-present in the business world, so choose carefully who and what company you are in alignment with.

So, to wrap up, what’s most important is that you are well aware of the possible pitfalls you may encounter along your journey towards success.

They come in many different forms and for many different reasons.

The best way to manage these situations is to learn to manage your own emotions.

You can’t change the challenges you will encounter along the way – only how you feel about them.

Don’t be afraid of them when they come up – matter of fact, embrace them – dive right in.

Because without challenges, there would be no growth.

And without growth, there would be no success.

You see, there is no shallow end when it comes to success – it’s sink or swim.

But once you learn to stay afloat, you will be able to handle any pitfall that comes your way.

And this, will make all the difference.

1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost…
I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in…it’s a habit
My eyes are open; I know where I am;
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
5) I walk down another street.
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10 Comments on Beware of the Pitfalls – then Dive Right In

  • Wow. What an awesome lesson here. I have to say, without a “figure it out mentality” you will surely struggle in everything you do in life. If the answer to all of your question, problems and frustrations are just given freely to you by an external source, the lesson is not really learned, your not going to grow and most importantly, your not going to be able to help others that proceed you who fall into the same situation.

    I love the pothole analogy. Never heard that one before and is definately one to keep in the memory bank.

    Not everyone has it in them to go the distance, but those who do, those who dig in and follow their hearts desires will surely finish strong. By the way, an excellent book by Steve Farrar – “Finishing Strong”.

    Thank you Aaron, for your leadership, your inspiration and for being such a solid rock to look up to and stand on when I sometimes feel like just a mere pebble ; )
    .-= Josh Boxer´s last blog ..What Do Reality TV and Marketing Have In Common =-.

  • Hi Aaron,

    Once again a great piece of advice!

    Quitting never was,is or will be an option :-) ,but we all have’Character Building Chalenges,as I prefer to call them which can sometimes cause confusion and/or frustration.

    Once we realize however that we always have the power to choose whether we respond or react to a given situation it becomes easier.
    After all,either you choose,or someone will choose for you!

    Thanks again for the timely advice and,I’ll avoid those potholes!(not just try to)

    Warmest regards,

    Jan :-)

  • Aaron, I feel as though you are directing this right to me and David. This is an amazing post, and I’m sure there will be many others who feel like it was meant for “them”. In other words, you’ve hit the nail on the head…once again. What a great way for me to start my day! Thank you.

  • @Josh – hey man, glad you like the pothole analogy. I read that story many
    years ago and scoured the internet for 30 minutes when writing this post
    to find it. It’s so true, that the “figure it out mentality” is how the winners operate,
    and why YOU my friend are clear cut winner!
    @Jan – thank you! YES! Character building challenges. I like that. As I’ve always said,
    character is that thing that keeps you loyal to your goals, long after the excitement
    you had when you set those goals, wore off! And character is not something you
    inherit or learn. It’s something thats manufactured inside of YOU, and it doesn’t
    happen when you laying around on the beach in Maui drinking a Mai Tai! It comes
    when you are tested time and time again, and come out on top, because you refuse
    to quit. Thanks for your feedback Jan. Awesome!
    @Roz (Mom) – So glad my post found you when you were looking for answers this
    morning. It’s like the old adage, when the student is ready, the information is more
    clear. Read this post every morning and start your day out right each and every time.
    Love you!
    .-= Aaron Rashkin´s last blog ..Beware of the Pitfalls – then Dive Right In =-.

  • Aaron,

    I love the story. It is the first time I have heard and I couldn’t help but laughing. It is so true about achieving success. It is a journey! Some parts will be fun and other parts you have to endure- kind of like traveling with small children:D

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom!
    Mary Thayer
    .-= Mary Thayer´s last blog ..What is your DMO Daily Method of Operation =-.

  • I am amazed at your wisdom and creativity. Your words are inspirational to me. You always seem to get me at my lowest point and bring me back to a more level playing ground.

  • Aaron,

    You just amaze me with your teaching style when you post in your blogs. 0-hype, each time I read what you’ve posted, I know I am being given value that comes from experience, and a sincere heart. Thank you for sharing with us in this post.

  • Another GREAT lesson about life as an Internet
    Marketer or even about life in general. You have
    a great imagination, and know how to learn how to put it to paper. You must have gone 3 streets up. LOL!
    Thanks – Aaron
    .-= Thomas C. Chandler´s last blog ..Be Careful… =-.

  • Great lesson, you really deliver that well.
    I always learn something everytime I come to your blog.

    Keep writting, you make it look so easy.

    Wising you much success,
    Juan

  • Another insightful post Aaron, only a man who
    has lived through the struggles and fallen in a few
    potholes could write with such wisdom. Another great
    analogy that I like is: “Many strokes overthrow the tallest oaks.” by John Lyly.
    Didn’t get to chat to you in Boca (although I had
    a nice chat with Sophia) but your
    enthusiastic welcome handshake was a great start to a great event! See U in Vegas!
    .-= Rich Mallinson´s last blog ..Are You Fighting the Facts about Marketing Compensation Why Your Odds of Success are Higher with Top Tier Direct sales than with Multilevel Marketing! =-.

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